Friday, November 28, 2008

Hard to Talk About...


I think that I need to vent... It's about our oldest son, Ryan, who I have stated is Special Needs. It is extremely hard to deal with at times and unless you have walked in anyone else's shoes, not even for a mile...for a single step, do not judge! I realize I do not have a M.D. or even a Ph. D after my name, but what I do have is a degree in being Ryan's Mommy. There are friends and family members out that think that I will forever be "looking" for something amiss with Ryan. Trust me it's not this way...being Ryan's Mommy has taught me this. It's a gut feeling that YES there is something that is plaguing my child and I will die trying to find out what is askew with him. We once saw a counselor who made a comment, "why do you need to know what are Ryan's issues"? Was he kidding me??? He had children, I would hope that he understood this need to know and this need to be able to tell your child that nothing would hurt them but how can I do this if I don't know what is wrong or how to treat it???
This week Ron and I brought Ryan to a Dr.'s appt. at CHOP, yep I said CHOP. I do have reservations about CHOP, which is probably why a majority of Ryan's care happens at DuPont but with that being said CHOP has a Biochemical Geneticist and this is who Ryan saw this past week. This is the 3rd geneticist we have seen over the last 4 years and the 2nd Biochemical Geneticist over the last 4 years. I jokingly told Ron that I was not leaving the Biochemical Geneticist office until we had an answer or at very least a PLAN of action.
The Biochemical Geneticist told us that after reading Ryan's chart she automatically thought it has to be Mitochondrial Disorder, which is what we have been suspecting for the past several years. But then when she met Ryan, she was extremely impressed with his cognitive abilities and also that Ryan did not regress totally in any ability, in other words he may have regressed but eventually he reacquires the ability and then progresses. However, she was concerned about when Ryan becomes sick, he becomes sick so quickly and he goes down fast and hard. She said she couldn't dismiss him that she too wanted to know what plagued Ryan???
The plan of action is this...the lab took at least 6 tubes of blood (perhaps according to the Biochemical Geneticist it could be as simple as an immune deficiency), next she wants us to make an appt. with the Neuromuscular Clinic, in CHOP of course, to get an ultrasound of Ryan's muscle to find out which muscle it would be best to do the muscle biopsy from and finally she wants us to make an appt. with a surgeon to do Ryan's muscle biopsy. Finally a plan of action and perhaps, just perhaps an answer...could we be so lucky??? The Biochemical Geneticist is thinking that it is conceivable that Ryan has some type of Neuromuscular Myopathy?!? However, she did tell us that these are just speculations and it will be awhile before we get concrete answers.
It was good to hear that I was not going insane, as some Dr.'s have been known to tell those of us, who will forever be searching for answers for our children.

Thanks for listening,
Jenny

Friday, November 21, 2008

Our First Post Placement Report, Halloween and Christmas?











Hi Everyone,
Life as usual has been CRAZY in our household!!! Who would have thought that by throwing another child into the mix of things would create such chaos?!? But I will state it's a good chaos :)
We had our very first post placement report done by our Social Worker. Where on earth has the time gone? Many of you may be asking what is a post placement report, let alone a first post placement??? When we sent our Dossier over to Russia in our Home Study (completed by the Social Worker) was a document that stated "OBLIGATION" to submit post placements reports, which our Home Study agency and our Social Worker had to sign, then notarize...of course. Our first post placement visit took place after 5 months and the report will be sent over to Russia before the end of the 7th month after the effective date of the adoption decree. The post placement report itself is a document completed by our Social Worker, that states quite a few things...first it states how well our little Lukie is doing, how has the adjustment been for him and everyone else in the household, what milestones has he completed, etc., etc. Our Social Worker told us at the end of our first post placement interview that we (as a family) look extremely HAPPY and fulfilled :) She also stated that Lukie is thriving!!! All in all the visit was a success :)
Then there was Halloween...which came and went and I forgot to post the photos of the boys...sorry!!! Ryan and Luke were absolutely adorable, if I may say so myself :) They were UPS drivers, which made Ron so happy :) Early Halloween morning we brought the boys up to UPS in Lawnside where they gave out candy to all the UPS drivers. Ron signed the boys up to help the drivers realize that there are little "Trick or Treaters" running around and the drivers need to be safe and watch for them. Later, that day Ron, Luke and myself went to Ryan's Halloween Parade...so cute! Once Ryan was out of school for the day, we went to our neighbors and the boys were able to Trick or Treat. We followed up with a stop at Marantha's Fall Festival, which we go to every year. The boys looked absolutely spectacular!!!
Then the weekend after Halloween our local lawn and garden center had Santa and the boys sat on Santa's lap. Luke was not a happy boy when this happened :( But his big brother showed him the ropes. Ryan sat on Santa's lap for a long time and read off a laundry list of toys he wanted this year. We were in amazement with all the toys that Ryan told Santa he wanted. Ryan kept on telling Santa that he was a good boy this year...it was too cute.
What happened to Thanksgiving? Well, it's coming but not before Lukie's 2nd Birthday!!! I can't believe that he is going to be 2 years old!!! We are having his 2nd Birthday Party tomorrow (Saturday) and YES I will take plenty of photos...don't know when I will be able to post them but soon...so stay tuned :)
Love & HUGS,
Jenny, Ron, Ryan & Lukie :)